🎃 From Halloween Masks to Our Hidden Selves

Whilst today is Halloween and the supermarket aisles are filled with people buying candies and costumes, I found myself wondering — where does Halloween really come from?

That small curiosity led me to two realisations:

1. We often do things without really knowing why we do them.2. And in the same way, when we’re going through a separation or divorce, we can lose touch with why we made certain choices in the first place — including why we got married.

So many of our daily habits and traditions are like masks — things we put on because everyone else does, or because it’s what’s expected. We celebrate anniversaries, birthdays, and family holidays; we take pictures and post the happy moments. Yet somewhere along the way, we can forget that beneath those moments lies responsibility, effort, and growth.

When a relationship ends, the mask comes off. Suddenly, you’re left not only grieving the loss of the relationship but also facing a deeper question:“Who am I now, without all the roles I used to play?”

During a separation, it’s easy to lose sight of the person behind the labels — the partner, the parent, the provider. But just like Halloween reminds us that masks are temporary, these moments of change invite us to rediscover our true selves.

It’s not about judging past choices or traditions; it’s about reconnecting with meaning. Asking yourself:

• Why did I choose this path?

• What matters to me now?

• Who am I when I’m not trying to please, fix, or hold everything together?

When we begin to answer these questions, we move from wearing masks to embracing authenticity — from going through the motions to truly living with intention.

🌿 Rediscovering the Person Beneath the Mask

Moments of transition often strip away the layers we’ve built — the roles, the routines, the expectations — until we’re left face to face with ourselves again. It can feel unsettling, but it’s also where healing begins. Reconnecting with who you are isn’t about going backward; it’s about meeting yourself with kindness, curiosity, and care.

P.S. As a little act of encouragement, if you book a session with me this coming month, you’ll receive a $50 voucher toward a beauty treatment or massage of your choice — a small reminder that caring for your inner world begins with also nurturing your outer self.